For those of you who have asked, yes, I am still not divorced. Longest divorce known to man. The ex moved across the country and continues to pretend to be a big-wig, all while failing to provide basic necessities for his children, such as helping them obtain a safe vehicle, college tuition, or helping to pay the property taxes. My name has been removed from their college accounts, making the switch from domestic abuse to financial abuse. After the assault, he continues his efforts to overturn the restraining orders, insisting the children want to see him, and my influence is the reason that they choose not to. I am not the one who left his son bloodied, or left his daughter disappointed, when he failed to help the kids get a car like he promised. Yes, I'm sure he has his struggles too. It's what he's doing now to his children that is determining whether or not they will ever have a relationship with him in the future. For that I can not be held accountable. Some people just never get it.
Calls to his lawyer go unanswered, and with no quick resolution in sight, I have accepted that in God's timing, he will provide for the children and I. He will open the doors that need to be opened and provide the opportunities that will bring resolution. I can only do what I can do each day. Work on my resumé, pay the bill I can that week, fill out the financial aid forms for my son's college, and continue my search for housing that would be suitable, (and hopefully, better than the rental we looked at with the pedophile upstairs - I kid you not).
Our struggles can make us or break us. We can stay victimized and spend the rest of our lives feeling sorry for ourselves, or we can emerge stronger, wiser, and have a new appreciation for all that is beautiful in our lives. When we have challenges, we no longer take anything for granted. My favorite quote is from the Disney movie, Mulan - cheesy, but true. "The flower that blooms in adversity is the most beautiful flower of all."
How have your struggles shaped your live? Have they given you a new appreciation for what is beautiful, simple, and true?
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