Today's inspirational girl speaks to exactly where I am at the moment. I survived a broken heart, but learned so much about myself in the process. I learned that you really can only depend on yourself and if your lucky, a few loved ones who will never let you down. No one will ever OWN me. I belong to ME. The thing about tough times is that they TEACH US THE WAYS OF OUR HEART. They reveal to us what is most important. We figure out who we truly are, we understand what our needs are and we figure out ways to meet them. Personal growth is the gift that we receive for facing difficult challenges.
I've made a friend who I've decided I really like. She's a fighter, she is tough as nails, she has learned that she won't quit even when she feels she can't win. She knows her heart, her mind, and is determined to reach her dreams. That friend is ME.
What was the hardest challenge you faced? Did it change you and your perspective on life? If so.. How? Do you believe that we are never given more than we can handle?
Debby-
ReplyDeleteYou have it figured out, and I am happy that you do! Tough times are what make us stronger, and they also clarify the important things. It is downhill from here. YES!
Happy Tuesday.
Teresa
xoxo
I'm still in the hardest challenge of my life, it will be a few more years before I can answer this, some days it destroys me, some days I feel comfortably numb, I'm not the happy go lucky person I used to be but I do have moments of happiness and lightness of being, though few and far between.
ReplyDeleteSome people are given more than they can handle, two close friends of mine have committed suicide, what seems bearable to one person can be unbearable to another.
GOod morning Debby my dear. I really love the theme here. I am working on my next post that goes SO WELL with this theme you chose today. This is the beauty of having the gift of LIVING and having A SOUL. We come to find on our journey of life that before we can love others, we have to love ourselves first and trust that we are worth something. So many people go through this journey and are angry at themselves that they end up abusing others and therefore continuing a cycle of imprisonment. But what you are describing is a sense of FREEDOM and a KNOWLEDGE that comes from within. I DO BELIEVE that we are never given more than we can handle, never more than what has a SOLUTION, and when we look within, we can find the answer. YOU ARE A SURVIVOR, as all of us are. My worse situation ever was when I lost both my parents to cancer, both of them within TWO WEEKS of each other...then, another incident happened about 10 years later that caused me to trust in MYSELF....I am a believer in GOD, who we must depend on, right? But there a comes a point at which ALL THE PRAYING shows us no sign of HELP...that is when WE have to do the work.....I found that God was with me as I took steps of courage to discover the STRENGTH WITHIN ME or rather, HIS STRENGTH within me, but I had to GRASP IT AND USE IT IN FAITH. YOU ARE DOING THIS NOW. You can walk on knowing that you are greatly loved and that you have all that is necessary to shine. See my new post on Saturday.
ReplyDeleteMUCH LOVE TO YOU..."talk" to you later......I know you have some goodies to explain to me!!! Anita
When times are tough I always live by the saying "What doesn't kill you makes you stronger" & you are living proof of this Debby - RESPECT!
ReplyDeleteHave a fab Tuesday Hun xoxo
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Love this message Debby! I sense the new resolve in your prose and its wonderful. I have total faith in you that you will love again and find true happiness but the most important thing is that you love and are happy with yourself first.
ReplyDeleteYes I think its likely we have all been through something really really difficult that later changed or molded us into who we are today. Though we dont' always see the "silver lining" initially...eventually it reveals itself and its a "aha" moment.
Sending you a great big hug of encouragment, support and mostly one to say how much I admire you:)
The pictures are beautiful and your words POWERFUL! You can help so many women with these lessons learned. We do grown through adversity...like pottery on a wheel molded by the potter. You are an impressive woman!
ReplyDeleteI love the images you chose for that inspirational post.
ReplyDeleteI think difficulties are the best way to discover oneself. And yes, I like to believe that we are never given more than we can handle, but it really is amazing how much we can handle, isn't it?
i've been through some REALLLY tough times in the past that i thought i'd never get through - it taught me i'm a lot stronger then i think, to trust in myself, to be myself, and that life is at my fingertips - it's all my choice what i do with my life - you REALLY are much stronger then you think you are, you learn that when the tough gets impossible and you think you have no way out :o) love u girly!
ReplyDeleteWhat a wonderful and beautiful post, Debby! I'm so glad to hear such positive resolve in your voice! You are always an inspiration to me and I admire you greatly! I've faced several things that seemed impossible but turned out to be blessings…the last one has been pretty tough to watch as it involved my precious son and his wife when my precious granddaughter was born with a bi-lateral cleft lip and palate. There are some things that we wish we could take away and not have to go through….today, I look at Layton and she exudes beauty and the scars she has only make her more beautiful to me! Just as your inner scars will serve to make you a tougher, stronger person…I can see that already and hear it through your writing! You will make it and you will love again! You are too lovely of a person to not turn it into something good! Thanks for sharing your heart with us!
ReplyDeleteDebbie, you are such a sweet lady and an inspiring soul. I have learned in my life that the Lord is who I can always lean on and count on. Through every trial we do become stronger. I always feel we learn something from those trials so we can turn around and help others. Its been wonderful to see you grow and become a confident lady on your own.
ReplyDeleteI knew it was you! I read the post thinking... "This sounds oddly very much like the Debby I know." I love that.
ReplyDeleteThat friend is an inspiration indeed! I went through quite a challenge when we moved to Asia and adjusting to life as the non-breadwinner. I had a really tough week and am still analyzing where to go next, but as long as I believe and get support I know it will be ok!
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Chic 'n Cheap Living
Debby,
ReplyDeleteGreat post and one that we can all relate toapnea some level. Wish we had control over the cards we are given in life.. but we don't so we just need to make the best of what we have and focuse on the good while trying to manage the not-so-good. I am amazed at your resilience, openness, strength and sense of humor throughout this. No doubt you will come out wiser and stronger on the other side !
xx
Leslie
Lovely resolve...Today is the day before I take my daughter off to college, so...
ReplyDeleteBut I had a super rough "break up" with my best friend for what I thought of my whole life. It was awful...but the beautiful friends, that actually were far more intuitive, lovely, artsy and all the things I hope I am, God brought to me and I feel beyond blessed with so many amazing friends. However during that dark time I never thought I'd survive the exclusion.....I never thought I'd share it either....but It's amazing the inner strength God gives us, even when we sometimes didn't want it in the first place....
Bless you and your courage!
PS your images and script were beautiful today, as always
ReplyDelete... relate to in some level :) I am on my phone and it does it's own thing every now and then!
ReplyDeleteI wanna know this girl really well, Deb....
ReplyDeleteI think God keeps giving us all challenges just to keep us honest with ourselves. Trust me I can relate with you on so many levels. It has been wonderful reading about you these past months and seeing you grow. Be strong you'll get through everything.
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Debra~
I definitely believe we're never given anything more than we can handle and that we are stronger than we might believe. It's so hard to remember that sometimes though. This might be my favorite inspirational girl.
ReplyDeleteBeautiful, dreamy pictures!
ReplyDeleteYou know what Debby, I would have to sit down with you on this particular subject...
ReplyDeleteAll I can say is thank god my ex left me...
I had no choice to think about me and to do my own thing
My life started to get better and better, I focused and I never stop believing in my dreams....
Trust your best friend, your gut feeling it will never let you down!!!
Luv Sonia
xo
I do believe that we are never given more than we can handle, and believing that has gotten me through so very rocky times. I also believe that everything happens for a reason and it all works out in the end. The secret is to hang in there, get through each day, and soon, that silver lining starts to shine through :) xo
ReplyDeleteYOU my dear are a constant reminder to LOVE myself!!! Thank you for my daily inspiration! You continue to amaze me every day!!!
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kb
As I see your blog, I am so convinced that the layout you have here is just for me, with the wonderful SPACE for photos, the Nav Bar and the ability to make the fonts work so wonderfully....it all looks just like what I want. Talk later, Anita
ReplyDeleteActually, It's hard for me to remember the hardest times of my life...I tend to see myself as a very fortunate girl, and I'm very thankful for that...But of course there were some bad, painful experiences as well...Time heals, we grow stronger, we become happier than before, we learn that bad times are just part of life, and you find yourself really thankful for them, you find yourself someone you like, and someone to be proud of...
ReplyDeleteI like YOU, Debby!
Big hugs!
Inés
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New to your blog, but I relate totally. After the sudden breakup of what I thought was a rock-solid 26 1/2 yr marriage (in the same year my mother died at age 69), I felt like my world had shifted on its axis. Some mornings the ONLY thing that got me out of bed was knowing I had to take care of my beloved dogs. For months I couldn't even have a conversation with anyone without a major meltdown (embarrassing many people, I'm afraid, like my poor moving guys!) I was blessed to have a daughter in college, 2 sisters, a Dad, and 2 friends who each called me EVERY SINGLE DAY for months as I struggled with depression and panic. I moved to a different state, bought a small house, went back to work full-time after staying home for 7 years, made new friends. But it was a full 2 1/2 yrs before I found myself just standing in the kitchen one morning, drinking a cup of coffee and looking out the window of my little house, and thinking "Wow - I'm happy!" Now, 4 years out and alone at age 50, I think I'm the most content I've ever been. Turn on Kelly Clarkson's "Stronger", sing along at the top of your voice, and hang in there!
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