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Every time I see a rowboat, it brings to mind the scene from, The Phantom of the Opera, in which the Phantom and Christine escape to a rowboat beneath the Paris Opera House. Christine is drawn to his passion, music, and the fact that he represents a link to her lost father, causing her to easily succumb to his spell.
The phantom's jealous nature eventually causes Christine to become fearful of him. In layman's terms, he's a bully. He stops at nothing to control her. So, he's had a hard life... he has had to hide behind a mask, he's disfigured, blah blah blah. Suck it up. Is there ever a good enough excuse to use manipulation, control, or bullying tactics to achieve one's personal agenda? No way.
So many young woman are drawn into this very pattern. Easily succumbing to a suitor's passionate, dangerous, bad-boy image. Ordinary men seem dull. By the time she's aware that what she had mistaken for passion is actually obsessive jealousy, she has already suffered from the affects of an unhealthy relationship.
Why do you think some women are drawn to bad-boys? Do you think these women are sweet-natured and manipulators feel they can prey on them? Do you think the men who use these tactics are aware they are doing so?
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So many young woman are drawn into this very pattern. Easily succumbing to a suitor's passionate, dangerous, bad-boy image. Ordinary men seem dull. By the time she's aware that what she had mistaken for passion is actually obsessive jealousy, she has already suffered from the affects of an unhealthy relationship.
Why do you think some women are drawn to bad-boys? Do you think these women are sweet-natured and manipulators feel they can prey on them? Do you think the men who use these tactics are aware they are doing so?
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Not everything that is BEAUTIFUL is true or good. But surely everything that is TRUE AND GOOD is beautiful. If only all women could know that .....Anita
ReplyDeleteThe author of that quote up above escapes me....
ReplyDeleteoh, how lovely..adore the images! Happy Weekend sweets! xo
ReplyDeleteordinary men are dull, I loved this statement Debby!!
ReplyDeletehave a great weekend dear! xo
Beautiful images and perfect introduction to your post's topic today! The woman may naturally sweet and thus is only seeing the "good" in this type of man ~ or perhaps she has been deprived of "real unconditional love" ... the kind that parents provide .. which allows young girls to grow into emotionally healthy and self confident. The man may be aware of his "tactics" ... but perhaps he is not totally a "bad" person, he too has been deprived from "real unconditional love" or has learned (by father's example) that to love is control. In either scenario until both the male and female deal with their challenges on relationship building ...they are somewhat toxic to each other... Great topic to bring up .. . xo HHL
ReplyDeleteTotally agree with Helena that ordinary guys are dull. I understand being drawn to the bad boy. And I do think that bad boys are totally aware of the control they have.
ReplyDeleteHave a wonderful weekend, Debby! xoxo
Story of my life... always wanting a boy with "edge"! Good girls always want the bad boys, and o0o we are playing with fire by going for them! The good boys are just too boring haha. But, I have learned that finding a guy with "edge" that has a HEART, is honest, and has a soft spot for family is key.. because so many bad boys cheat or become unfaithful... now I just have to find one that exists ;) xx,
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ps lovely romantic images and happy friday :)
Every time I see a row boat it reminds me of the Bridget Jones movie (which I love!)
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I used to date bad boys but at the time I didn't realize they were. I ended up with good guy, so good it's insane. Life has never been better.
ReplyDeleteLovely images. The fist picture makes me long for warmer weather and long summer days.
ReplyDeleteThere is something exciting and sexy about the bad boy image. It's that .. What's going to happen next? .. The passion.. Hollywood has capitalized on our fascination with these dysfunctional relationships. Remember 9 1/2 weeks? I dated a few bad boys (30 plus yrs ago!) and thankfully did not marry one!
ReplyDeleteThis is an important message that all young women need to hear. I think women think they can "change a man"...but a leopard can't change his spots!
ReplyDeleteHave a wonderful image...I'll be thinking about that beautiful rowboat scene!
xoxo Elizabeth
This was a wonderful post Debbie, as always. I think sometimes young women are drawn to the opposite of what they really want because it is seen as negative to "settle" for the easier road. There is always that hope inside that you could be the one to change him.
ReplyDeleteMy darling ex (no sarcasm intended) even told me at the end of relationship that he thought I was the one who could change him, but in the end he didn't love me any more, not for a lack of trying on either side.
Sometimes those bad boys can teach a good girl a lesson, and bring something to her life as well. And then we find a good boy.