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My teen daughter and all of her friends are obsessed with the television show, Pretty Little Liars. I have to admit to never watching it myself, but have to wonder what message it sends todays youth when the tagline is, "never trust a pretty girl with a dark secret."
Truth is, I'm pretty lenient. I don't allow myself to get overly worked up over society's attempts to turn our youth into degenerates. It's a battle I can't win anyways, society and all of it's influences are not going anywhere. I have learned to choose my battles and hope that whatever values and morals she has learned at home she will take with her.
What do you think society is teaching today's youth?
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As a high school teacher, I could write pages on this topic...but will practice restraint. I told some kids last week that when I was a kid my favorite song was I WANT TO HOLD YOUR HAND, and my favorite movie was about a girl who fell out of a tree and lived (Pollyanna)...when I compare that to what they are watching today, it is telling. I think it is part of a parents responsiblity to control some of the garbage...we all know Garbage IN, Garbage OUT.
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From what I see in the classroom of fourth graders, I see that society is teaching them to take SHORTCUTS in learning. Also, their natural self-centered nature is only being SUPPORTED by the consumerism idea that they MUST HAVE every new product out there and that they are ENTITLED TO IT! But whatever values they receive in the home and at school, I hope will follow them as they muddle through the false hopes in life. GREAT PHOTOS! Anita
ReplyDeleteWell, as a parent, not a teacher, I know that I have tried to teach my girls decent morals, the difference between right and wrong, never take anything or anyone for granted and if they want something they have to earn it....nothing should be considered an entitlement...and I think my husband and I have done a pretty good job....our children have all been honor students, had jobs since they were 15 years old, know the value of money....yes, my children watch TV shows that I don't always approve of, including "Pretty Little Liars", but I think they're intelligent enough to know the difference between reality and what is written for those shows!!! Hope you have a great day Debby!!! :)
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Ive caught Chloe watching the show as well....like you say, pick your battles. They are good girls, it could be way worse! lol
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ReplyDeleteThere will always be something influencing kids to do the wrong thing. And, there will always be a huge responsibility on parents and adults to provide an example for the kids around them. For me, I am trying to make sure my nieces and nephews "like" themselves and see the value in using their head and not focusing so much on things that will not be important later in life.
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ReplyDeleteI have never watched Pretty Little Liars but to be honest with everything horrible out there I think this is definitely not the worth they could watch
Adore the photos as always Debby! In my opinion, you're only as good as your upbringing!
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Oh boy, I could write a novel on that so suffice to say I think we are headed in the wrong direction but I am hopeful that we will realize it and soon start making return to old fashioned values and they will once again become "en vogue" one can only hope. My son and a bunch of his friends are watching this show, I know nothing about it but am curious now......I think bottom line is the people we create that we thrust into this world all are molded from home, it does start from home and we as their parents have a tremendous responsibility to instill a code of honesty, high standards, self empowerment, and a strong moral compass and hope that we have done our job as they clip their wings and become young adults.
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ugh don't even get me started...but then again I was watching 90210 when I was 12...
ReplyDeleteI don't think they are conferring at all who is watching. They don't care as long as the numbers are there.
ReplyDeleteAll we can do is try. It continues to get worse, so I am sorry for the young mothers.
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Lovely picks as always Debbie!, About Pretty Little Liars...My daughter Ana read the all serie, yep almost 15 books!, when she was fifteen year old, in that time, my priority as that she enlists with the reading habit...you see, we all learned to choose our battles!
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I've never watched Pretty Little Liars, but I do ponder the wisdom of sensationalizing people, and I've noticed it's too often girls, who are making bad choices, being bullies, or out of control. As long girls know the difference between right and wrong, good and bad, and reality and fantasy it's simply entertainment. By the teen years kids should have a good grasp on these concepts, but younger girls should be encouraged to watch shows geared toward their age and that takes some parental supervision.
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I think all generations face challenges when raising kids. That said, I feel it's particularly difficult {now} with all exposure via computer, TV, and radio. It seems that as years pass more and more is acceptable to see and do - all at a younger age. Not sure if that's good or bad .. it just is. Love, communication, and staying involved is so important when raising kids - and yes! you just pick your battles and teach your kids the values of what's important.
ReplyDeleteLovely photos! That Burberry trench is gorgeous! I think as long as teenagers don't watch reality televsion (like 'Jersey Shore' or superficial crap like 'The Hills')and have great role models in their lives then I think they'll be okay!
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ReplyDeleteI think our youth have it so hard. I really worry that what they perceive as right or wrong is too heavily influenced by sources outside the home.
I actually watch the show with my daughters. The title makes it sound worse than it is. It's more of a mystery "whoddunit" type of show than anything else. I agree with Marie above, bad reality shows like Jersey Shore, The Hills, 16 and pregnant, anything Kardashians have more of a negative effect than anything else.
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Oh dear, I won't even start on this one because I'll probably drone on and on. I think I'm about in your court on this one (as usual). I've never seen the show. I remember when I was little I watched old westerns where people were getting shot all the time for pete's sake (who is pete btw?).
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Also, the chocolate of course, I'm thinking of that one too.
I would be happy if people would learn manners. The husband and I were out the other night in a nice restaurant and several young couples came in and the guys kept their hats on during dinner. Take them off please!
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Gorgeous photos, Debby! I never watched Pretty Little Liars but have a co-worker who does and loves the show. However, I'm not really sure what that's really worth.... I think it's wise to pick you're battles. I'm sure you've given her all the tools to be an amazing young woman. :) xoxo
ReplyDeleteDebby,and everyone, eventually real values will catch up with normal kids who have normal homes. Manners? I just don't know. Do we see how the influence of foreign people is creating some of this problem, when they don't have the same customs we do, and we accept their ignorance as OK? I could go on and on, but maybe a post on my blog is in order.
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Debbie, I haven't seen the show yet..but i love your images. So pretty!
ReplyDeleteI actually agree with your attitude. If you set a good example and nurture a good relationship with your kids they will want to emulate you and they will ultimately know which path to choose. And everyone needs to make their own mistakes. But it's still fun to get obsessed with a show that doesn't exactly carry the same morals...it doesn't mean they will act on them. Love you new blog header!
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I love all that lavender!! & about the other question...obviously the media is a big money making machine so they aren't very concerned with any sort of morals, but when a child has parents or a parent they can look up to and talk to then I feel shows and any other media outlet will carry no true guidance, just a bit of guilty pleasure! ;)
ReplyDeleteWe've accepted that this culture of entitlement is just how kids are "at that age". Nobody wants their kid to be the one left out, to go with less, or not to be included. So we've created a culture of narcism where everybody is special and everyone is deserving of a prize for nothing. The t.v. shows have glamorized behavior that simply isn't acceptable - girls use the "f" word in talking to their mom, sexual boundaries are nonexistent, drugs are fine because everyone does it, underage drinking is expected, and being a prude is the absolutely worst thing you can be called. I don't know if its a matter of "picking your battles", its an opportunity to teach and discuss why shows like these aren't good for kids who are still developing their character. I watched a couple of episodes with my 14 and 17 year old and after discussing, they came to the decision that it really wasn't a good show and they saw friends behaving like the characters. Stealing, lying, inappropriate sexual situations... My 17 year old says its like teens are in a race to get to the bottom. My 14 year old now sees promos for shows and just shakes his head and says, "Go America".
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ReplyDeleteSecond...I 100% agree with you...I have two girls, a 12 year old and a 6 year old....and at the rate technology and television shows are moving, it can be terrifying...but sometimes you just have to trust that they hear what you have tried to show and teach them.
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