Have you ever felt that others had your life all planned out for you? They have a role in mind and they will stop at nothing to make sure you star in it. The father who wants his son to follow in his footsteps of becoming a doctor, the daughter who is expected to get into an ivy league college from the very first moment she picks up a book, the gay child who should be straight, or even the career woman who receives the message that she should be staying at home to raise her children.
What if we don't our live our lives in a bubble of meeting everyone's expectations but our own? Why do others feel they have a right to be disappointed when we don't live our life the way they think we should?
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Blue chair and that bathroom is amazing!
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Mugs in pastel colors is my favorite!
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I'm the opposite, I have drifted through life, I wish someone had pushed me more, I guess I'm too much of the dreamer type.
ReplyDeleteHERE HERE again! Even though I am grateful for the people in my life that have helped PUSH me out the door, I still feel at times that what I am doing is because SOMEONE ELSE said I should. I think very few people live their lives according to their own convictions, especially in a world where powerful forces have the power to influence our thinking!
ReplyDeleteBEAUTIFUL PHOTOS DEBBY DEAR! Anita
I want that chair! Gorgeous... and a beautifully worded post! Have a lovely weekend.
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I think it's because they have expectations for us, and while we tend to follow these expectations, one day we wake up and realize this is not the life we have wanted,and change course. That change shocks people and unsettles them, thus the disappointment. But at the end of the day, their love for you will turn them around..Happy weekend Debby, xo
ReplyDeleteexpectations... expectations... watch the documentary "I AM"! I watched it last night and its incredible!! Very inspiring, and based on this very topic :) beautiful post as always <3
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Your post today was beautiful. As a mother, it is one of the most difficult, yet important things we can do; to encourage our children to be who they are, to live their dreams, and not feel they have to please us. I do think we slip into this because of fear. We are so afraid our children will be hurt, and want to protect them. We think we know best.... we must always remember that there is a plan for them. If they are loved and encouraged, they will blossom!
ReplyDeleteClearly this is something I need to always remind myself!! And now, I will jump off that soap box, and wish you a wonderful weekend.
There are plenty of opinions out there, but you have to follow your heart. I wish I had gone my own way instead of being a broker all of those years. Live and learn. I have made certain that my children do just that.
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Teresa
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At times through life I needed guidance from others, but I have pretty good instincts about life, people, situations, etc. There have been so many times I wished I would have trusted my initial instincts instead of following what everyone else said or fallen for deliberately being misled...only to have been proven right later on....I'm starting to trust my instincts more now. At times, no one is going to agree with you, but you have to be true to yourself.
ReplyDeleteI grew up with very over achieving parents, (one doctor one lawyer) need I say more? When only one of the three of us became a doctor, I know it wasn't as they "had planned it" but thankfully we are all successful in our way way and more importantly happy.
ReplyDeleteYes - I have had this happen. As a woman I can put that which was said in the past into perspective and move forward, not allowing those comments to affect my personal growth. As a mother and wife I try to accept, honor, and respect the individuality of my family members.
ReplyDeleteDebby, these pictures are beautiful. I'm a fan of blue and whites .. love the chair!
I hope you are enjoying your weekend and time with the kids. There are some fun movies that are up for awards that I'm trying to see. My daughter just picked up The Descendants - a little wine and pasta, popcorn?
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leslie
As a young girl, i totally agree with your post. My life was planned out for me up until i was 15 when i felt the need to rebel against it because i was struggling to enjoy and succeed in science subjects
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Debbie, I love your blog ... you post the most gorgeous photos and always make me stop and think. I know this is not an easy answer ... I had to delete all I was trying to write ... it was too much!! And I am not certain if you are looking for an answer ... but I am giving it anyway!! Bottom line, don't let anyone else's dreams stand in the way of yours ... or your children's. And you can help them (your children) understand that others may love them so much and see things in them from their own successes/failures. Listen and be respectful and take them with the love that they were given. But if they are disappointed it is sad for them. It has taken me 50 years of life to take this to heart. Live ... and be happy!! And by the way ... you make me see things more beautifully every day!!
ReplyDeleteSuch a pretty post and again very thoughtful. I have been very blessed to be well supported by both my parents and husband to be who I need to be. On another note...I'm so excited to win your giveaway. Can't wait to see my bracelet...thanks so much...XO, Mona
ReplyDeleteI think many times others mean well (they want us to have a "good" life). They try to steer us sometimes toward occupations/professions that they feel are "safe" (there is a demand) and/or maybe lucrative. Also, many of our parents and grandparents were more driven by appearances and what "the people" will think or say. If one can support himself in their chosen profession and is happy & fulfilled in what he does, I say they are probably happier than most.
ReplyDeleteWhile most are loving other details of the bathroom, I'm really digging the bathroom doors. But even more so, I'm loving that white iron garden/bistro table in one of the first photos. Gorgeous!
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I totally love this photos..would have my own house to style it!
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Have a great weekend.
I LOVE this series. you are so creative.
ReplyDeleteI thoroughly enjoyed this post - interesting observations and beautiful photos. I would love those gorgeous mugs and I have a table just like the one in the second photo - I'm inspired to give it a new coat of paint ready for spring and hopefully sitting outdoors.
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this is my type of girl! i aspire to be more like this, but sometimes reality kicks in and it feels like the weight of the world is on your shoulders. i'm always trying to just "let it go". thanks for the reminder :-)
ReplyDeleteThis is something I started to come to terms with the last few years. Now I couldn't be happier. I walk to the beat of my own drum.
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