Last fall I was pleasantly surprised when I received an email from the editor of Romantic Homes Magazine asking to feature me in their annual Valentine's series: The Romantics.
Trendsetters and entrepreneurs are selected and invited to share their inspirations for living the romantic life.
The ironic thing is, I had just recently filed for divorce. What would I write about? Was I even in a position to contribute? After much thought I realized that even though I had loved and lost, I still believed in romance. Romance is, and always will be, a big part of who I am. When I sat down to write the article it flowed freely and I realized I had strong opinions on the subject.
So, if this Valentine's season you find yourself single, heartbroken, or feeling alone, I hope you will embrace the romantic side of life and all the beauty that the world still holds. I hope you are inspired to romance yourself a bit... you deserve it.
Thanks for allowing me to share my feature below and for reveling in my excitement with me!
photography + interior styling: me
I admit it.... I am a romantic at heart. I can't see enough chick flicks, display enough flowers, light enough scented candles or listen to too many love songs. This is what I've learned: We grow up thinking we can't have romance in our lives unless Prince Charming comes trotting along on his white horse. I've realized that you don't need a prince, or necessarily even a partner, to have romance in your day-to-day life. You can woo yourself, and in doing so you are loving yourself and confirming you are worthy of living the best-quality life you can create. When I see a beautiful bunch of flowers at the market, I don't stand around waiting for someone to buy them for me, I treat myself. Once home and adorning a beautiful vase, the flowers remind me that simple things make my world a little more special. A fragrant bubble bath in the warm glow of candlelight, a pretty red pout, a delicate pastry on a beautiful dessert plate are all indulgences that add romance to the mundane of every day living.
Connecting to my romantic side is really all about celebrating femininity. It goes much deeper than being wined and dined. Romance to me is about celebrating the beauty in being a woman; reveling in the delicate, soft, pretty and gentle side of life. Inspired Design has become a wonderful expression of the creative romantic inside me. One of my most romantic moments was when my blog was referred to as a "visual romance novel." I knew then that by pouring my heart and soul into my blog I had been given the privilege of bringing a bit of romance into the lives of others.
*I'd like to extend a big thank you to Jacqueline deMontravel, Editor of Romantic Homes. If you have not seen her beautiful decor book, Hers, you will not want to miss it!!
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ReplyDeleteWay to go lady!!!!! Sooooo super excited for you!!! How amazing!! You can be a "romantic" at heart, it doesn't matter if you are with someone or not:)
ReplyDeleteInspiration for You, Your Home, & Everywhere in Between!
Wow thats fabulous Debby and well deserved! They knew a good thing when they saw it! I so agree on all you said, we dont need someone to do these things for us, we need to treat ourselves as special and as well as we want us others to treat us. Romance has many experssions, and I do believe taking really good care of ourselves is just one of the many. Love your messages and congrats once again!
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ReplyDeleteDebby, though things such as divorce happen to disconnect ROMANCE....love never dies. The kind of love that transcends even the most voluptuous relationship....keep the flame of appreciation of all things beautiful in YOUR heart, and you will keep the torch of ETERNAL LOVE in your heart forever. What a beautiful thing for you to be asked to share your heart....what a joy to see your home!!!
HUGS TO YOU DEAR DEBBY! Anita
Debby, you are so right, we must romance ourselves! And that just opens our hearts to be romanced by others ... I made a promise to myself about fresh flowers years ago. I buy them every week (mostly from the grocery) for a mere $9.99!) to place in my kitchen ... no matter what. They make me smile. and just another reminder of the little things that are most special!
ReplyDeleteCongratulations Debby and the only thing that truly matters is that no matter what is going on in your life you still belive in romance. Romance doesn't always need to be in the form of a relationship with another and you've shown that...way to go girlfriend!
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Debra
Congratulations Debby! I love your story and your blog...
ReplyDeleteCongrats! So happy for you...You are a true romantic, as you said , if we don't romance ourselves we will never appreciate romance in other forms. Prince charming is for fairy tales, while true romance is the softer side of life, it lies inside everyone of us and allows us to see everyday things in a different light...Lovely post! xo
ReplyDeleteOh Debby this is just gorgeous!!! I'm so happy for you! Congrats! You are a true romantic at heart no matter what you go through in life. xoxo
ReplyDeletewow Debby! so exciting and so happy for yoU!! well said and well done! Lovely home you have created!
ReplyDeleteCONGRATULATIONS!!! This is so exciting...and I think you have a powerful story about romance. You are deserving and I am really thrilled for you...what a sweet gift after all you have walked through this past year.
ReplyDeleteCongratulations on your feature! You deserve it!!!
ReplyDeleteDebby, Congratulations! That is so wonderful and I am SO happy for you :) I admire your passion and inspiration and there is no better person to write the article for them, than you. I can't wait to read it and again, I am so happy for you!
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Twirling Clare
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Congratulations! I love your blog photos, your home is lovely and the pics have given me a couple of decorating ideas. I have also been honored to be in the Romantic Homes Valentine issue doing the Make It valentine heart.
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Hello Debby, how exciting for you to see your lovely home in print. I can relate, because my daughter's work will be in upcoming issues of Romantic Homes. (Isn't Jacqueline de Montravel a delight to work with?) Keep your faith strong and I have a feeling a second and perhaps better chance at romance will come your way. Your blog is beautiful and positive.
ReplyDeleteCongratulations, Debby! I am so proud of you, and the images are beautiful. Can't wait to pick up a copy!
ReplyDeleteI can't think of anyone more deserving of this lovely attention. Perseverance pays, especially when it is genuine like you are.
Teresa
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Congrats Debby! You are a gem. I love your outlook on life and love, they are the same sentiments I have. The love you have for life, beauty and all things lovely is seen in every post. Coming to your blog is like have a quick date with loveliness! Valentine's Day is a day of love. xoxoxo.
ReplyDeleteGreat Story & Love your attitude. The beauty you see in life will carry you threw. Wonderful article!
ReplyDeleteCongratulations on this spread. I really enjoyed reading about your experience, the fact that you wrote it and really delved into the real meaning of romance after going through a divorce makes it so much more interesting. So glad I found your romantic space here in the blog world!
ReplyDeletexo Mary Jo
You are an amazing woman, Debby! Congratulations on your most deserving feature! What a fantastic way to kick off the year. I truly admire your positive attitude, your beauty inside and out being and such a sweet and genuine person. Thank you for being an inspiration to all of us! I'm headed to pick up the magazine today. I can't wait!
ReplyDeleteCongratulations with this spread, I really loved reading it and I definitely see truth in what you say. You've shined light on the definition of romance in a different way then usual, which gives perspective, so thank you :)
ReplyDeleteDebby,
ReplyDeleteI think you have beautifully demonstrated the difference b/w the "idea" of romance and having romance "in" your life!
This really strikes a chord with me as I have watched my mother, one of the most feminine, romantic people i know, push ahead after divorcing my father, after 44 years. It was self preservation.
I know it was frightening for her, but when I see her home now, so graceful, elegant and full of romance, yes romance (candles burning, beautifully decorated and enveloping with love....I think she has mastered the art of loving oneself.
Here's to all the beauty and romance you create for us each and every day!
xoxo Elizabeth
OHHH Girl!How wonderful! Absolutely a million percent you were/are qualified to worite on the subject of romance! Thia is so exciting! Loved every single word of this and MANY good things are coming in your life .
ReplyDeleteI also am a romantic girl at heart . Can not get enough hearts and pink.
Hugs!
Have a pretty day!
Kristin
How exciting... and beautiful and charming photos!!
ReplyDeleteKristin ♥
Congratulations! I love what you have to say about romance. It does tap into our most feminine and loving side. You are the epitome of romance to me and all your friends.
ReplyDeleteDebby, I'm so happy for you! This is a great milestone. And if you inspired one lonely woman out there you have literally changed the world!
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Sharon
Congats on the layout!
ReplyDeletebrett
Mom must be so proud! Congrats Debby - well-deserved!
ReplyDeletexo Cathy
Congratulations! I adore that magazine, you are doing very well hon. Don't stop finding the romance in every moment of life :)
ReplyDeleteCongrats lady! You definitely capture that perfect romantic, feminine mood in your blog everyday!
ReplyDeleteCongratulations !! I'm so excited and happy for you! and I do agree "Visual Romance Novel" definitely describes Inspired Design!!! No matter how my day is going when I have visited your beautiful corner of BlogLand I leave feeling wonderfully warm hearted and smiling. Blessings my friend this is the first of many , many, features you will be writing! Fabulously written and inspiring! xo HHL
ReplyDeleteAhhhhh, this is so so wonderful, Debby. You deserve to be romanced with fresh flowers and pretty little things, and I definitely approve of surrounding yourself with them no matter where they came from. What a lovely thing to be featured in a national magazine. I'm so proud to know you!!
ReplyDeleteBig Congrats!!!!!!
Your romantic arrow hit my heart. Romance doesn't have to be about couples and it's more than ok to romance ourselves. I've been divorced for 12 years now and like you, I find ways to decorate my own soul with flowers, candles, and all things romantic. Congratulations on being featured in Romantic Homes!
ReplyDeleteThis is so fabulous and so well deserved!! xx
ReplyDeleteDebby! I read this at the office today and couldn't wait to get home and send you a note. I am so happy for you. You have a wonderful attitude and perspective on life. So often women wait for someone else to make them happy, meet their needs, or define them. We need to take that task on ourselves, even if that means CHANGE. Eternal love vs. romance - very different in reality. After 30 yrs of marriage I get it - life is journey with lots of peaks and valleys. Resilience is so important. What a wonderful role model you are for your kids! Here's to being a romantic woman - flowers (roses and peonies are my favorite), candles (I light them every night to calm my nerves), and bubble baths (need to do that more often) Congratulations! xx leslie
ReplyDeleteWhat a heartwarming post. I'm sorry to hear about your divorce, but so glad to hear that you are taking care of yourself, and are finding that fulfillment within yourself. Congratulations on the article, couldn't imagine someone with more grace and charm to write it.
ReplyDeleteCongratulations. I am so excited for you. Cant wait to see it.
ReplyDeleteCongratulations on your feature Debby! You are a romantic inspiration :-) x
ReplyDeleteHow absolutely delightful and so deserved! And thanks for reminding me to romance myself--yes, I think I will go out on a date!
ReplyDeleteI am so happy for you! You are very deserving, and I think it is great for your 2012 to start out in such a positive way. Congrats!
ReplyDeleteCongratulations!! What a lovely feature!
ReplyDeleteOh Debby, that is too awesome! Congratulations!
ReplyDeleteKeri
You are SUCH an inspiration of what a strong, beautiful, positive, and hopeful woman should be! Anytime i am feeling down, I visit your blog and can't help but smile from ear to ear. I am so proud, and happy for you! You deserve this feature. Can you pleas let me know when this issue will be available? Or is it out now (probably). I would like to buy it!
ReplyDeletecongratulations!!
ReplyDeleteCongratulations!! What a beautiful piece you have written and I have to say, your blog is most definitely a favourite of mine!!
ReplyDelete~ Clare x
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