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Our lives are pretty much an empty bookcase just waiting to for our story to be written and fill our shelves full of memories, laughs, pain, smiles, deaths, births, realizations, friendships, adventures and experiences.
I am a pretty private person but my life has had a lot more pain, pleasure, love, disappointments and learning experiences then I reveal to the outside world. This has me thinking... who are the lucky few that we reveal our true selves to and know that they will love us no matter what. No judgement. Unconditional acceptance. I think we only need one relationship like this to be o.k. If we are lucky enough to have this person in our lives, then we can consider ourselves truly blessed.
Who is this person in your life? Have you ever considered writing your life story... if you did would you keep your identity anonymous?
What a thought provoking post. I've had a lot of pain in my life too, that's why when folk leave comments and say " Your life is so amazing" I always say, no it isn't , blogs just show a teensy part of life.
ReplyDeleteWrite it all? Hmm, I don't think so, it wouldn't be cathartic for me and I loathe misery memoirs.
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ReplyDeleteWow I think on some level we can all relate to this. I know I too have had some pretty painful events in my life that I have never revealed or expressed through my blog, maybe because subconsciously the blog is my happy place and I just dont' want to bring down the vibe. Blogs are one facet of many parts of my life, how I wish my whole life was so carefree and wonderful:) There IS a lot of great too, don't get me wrong. I do consider myself lucky, I have my husband, a few exceptionally amazing good friends who I can totally trust and my wonderful parents, for this I am really blessed. I am very private so doing a tell all probably wouldn't be in the cards for me personally but I do think the reason a lot of people do that, is that its very healing, it is very brave and I commend anyone who does that. Great post...gives all of us something to think about!
ReplyDeleteI have considered writing my life story- it would be "based" on events though and it would be humorous more then sad (even though I have had many rough times)...Loved this post Debby!
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We all have stories which include pain and struggles...within those stories are lessons to help others. Those who are called to share their journey have the ability to really make difference in so many lives. My husband, children and a few friends will always stand by me...but there is only one relationship where I get complete acceptaince and forgiveness and that is with God. I do not know how I would keep going without Him.
ReplyDeleteYou are absolutely right. I'd say that person for me is J. But then again, I can't tell J every single thing...like there are somethings that you need to seek counsel for about your partner. Someone unbiased. It used to be my best friends but now that they're gone I'd say my closest confident outside of J is my sister.
ReplyDeleteBeautiful and thought provoking post, Debby. xoxo
This is one of the reasons I've always wished I had a sister. That person is 99% my husband. I also have a cousin (the doxie owning gal) who I can share with at any time. We are on the same wavelength.
ReplyDeleteI've been thinking of you lately, hope all is well over on your side of the world :)
Love the way you used the empty book shelf metaphor!! It is so true!! and how I am looking at my second chance at life .. not just version 2.0 of the chapter but volumes and volumes of books taking up many shelves ~ the best is yet to come, as they say (gosh I hope it hurries up and arrives..lol) !! I have been putting my experiences to words on paper ...and YES, a book is definitely in the works .. though I will write it as fiction , inspired by the events of my life. Wishing you a fabulous day! xo HHL
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Life is about experiences. We have ups and downs. I do not know what I would do with out a spiritual foundation. It gets me through the tough times. We go through things in our life to grow in understanding so we can reach out and help others.
ReplyDeleteI can relate to so many different things going on in your life. This past summer we had lost a mother, had a wedding and a new baby, add all that to the normal sutff we deal with daily and it was a very emotional time . I deal by taking time for myself. I am learning to say no to people, it isn't the easiet thing to do, but it has cut my stress level way down.
ReplyDeleteWishing you peace and love~
First, a belated Birthday wish to you, Miss Debby! Happy Birthday! I hope that your day was amazing!
ReplyDeleteI would have to say my daughter. We are so close.
I love the bookshelves here with the contrasting back.
Have a wonderful day, Debby.
Teresa
xoxo
Awesome colors. Love the analogy of the bookcase. And it sounds like even with the pain in your life you've found how to make life meaningful. Good lesson today from you.
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Wow - this is really something to think and reflect about. I'd say the person that knows me best - and all my secrets and facets is my husband. I think I can be most "real" and genuine around him with absolutely no fear of judgement.
ReplyDeleteGoodness I know the answer to that! I would never ever write my life story- too many secrets! Haha, not bad secrets but there are definitely things that I am taking with me to the grave. Most definitely.
ReplyDeleteyou are going deep today my friend!!
ReplyDeletei have actually started a "memoir" but have not gotten past high school yet. in fact, do i even know where that thing is??? in the wrong hands it could be dangerous! :)
have a great day
brett
A "friend" once told me, "If you don't want something repeated, don't bring it up"...well that really shut me up - ha! Moments like that make me appreciate my husband who is my one steadfast confidante. Wish I could clone him!
ReplyDeleteAlthough I have deep pains in my life, this quote from Mother Teresa always makes me laugh, "I know God won't give me anything I can't handle; I just wish he didn't trust me so much." :)
I love it when you get all philosophical on us and ask those interesting questions.
ReplyDeleteHubby and a few friends are these persons in my life. No, I've never thought about writing the story of my life. I'm pretty sure it wouldn't be a best seller since I'm lacking the celebrity status ;-)
I hope I can have a mini library in my house at some point! All those beautiful shelves to fill!
ReplyDeleteI read your post this morning and it got to me thinking today. What a wonderful and thought provoking post, Debby. I am a farily private person but got to thinking about a book. Yes, I think I would consider writing one and sharing my life, in the hopes that my story and life experiences would help another person. I guess I would have to share that I would use my name as the author because I am proud of my life story. Thanks for getting the wheels turning today, Debby. I needed that today!
ReplyDeleteWhat a great post that certainly got me pondering! xx
ReplyDeletebeautiful, thoughtful post :) and i just adore the tile in that bathroom.
ReplyDeleteI am kind of private too. It is funny how I seem to share more things on my blog then I tell my friends.
ReplyDeleteI have my sisters that love me unconditionally. It is nice to have someone know exactly what your thinking even if it is somewhat crazy. My husband is a close second but with him there is still some mystery.
LOVELY!!!! Anita
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Debby,
ReplyDeleteThere are layers and layers to you...that I can tell just from our exchanges in this world. And, I'm sure whatever your full story, you would be embraced and cherished.
For me....I had to think a moment. I am a fairly open person but for the nitty-gritty I feel my husband, brother, sister-in-law and a couple of close friends are the ones who I can really confide in. I feel that more has happened "around me" than "to me"...not sure if that makes sense.
Here's to filling our shelves with as much humor and poetry and less drama!!
xoxo Elizabeth
Debby, I couldn't agree with you more. It takes one persons unconditional love to see us through the toughest times. I have been blessed to feel this with my husband. It really did change my life for the better. He made God's unconditional love real for me!
ReplyDeleteI love your thoughtful posts Debby! I am very private in many ways (for example I divulge v little personally on my blog) but an open book with others. Depends on the topic I think. My husband is my go-to, no question.... Thanks for your daily inspiration!
ReplyDeleteAs bloggers we try to show the beautiful essence of who we are and dream to be but of course our private lives are filled with many layers and some are not so perfect! I agree that everyone needs someone to accept all of you...the good, the bad and the ugly. I have found when I have been most real and showed my flaws, that's when people seemed to like me more. I love the depth of your posts!
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Sharon
www.fashion-isha
Oh dear one, I was unable to visit this morning as usual, but what a HEARTFELT and gorgeous and visual post. I run to my creativity and to GOD. YEP, HE is ultimately the creator of creativity in us and when even my creativity doesn't seem to satisfy, HE DOES. Be well my friend, Anita
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